Can you remember the first time you lost something? Maybe it was a stuff animal your mother threw away because it had been washed too many times and it was falling apart and you cried for days. Or perhaps your brother broke your favorite toy because he was jealous.
Then a friend moves away, or you lose a pet. The loss of knowing that your parents are imperfect, and make mistakes. Childhood losses may seem small to some, even so, for the child they are monumental. Still, losses in childhood are invaluable. They teach the child that all is not right with the world all the time.
The teenage years come with all their emotional turmoil. Break-ups with boyfriends or girlfriends, the college of choice not attained, parents divorcing. Bigger loses now, and it takes a longer time to bounce back from them.
Then comes adulthood with its myriad of issues. Sick children, spouses cheating, loss of employment are only a few of the many disappointments and losses that may be experienced.
Then we see our parents age, watch in dismay as they lose their mobility, their independence and finally their life.
Losses lead to grief. At first there is shock and disbelief. How can this be happening to me, it’s not possible! Denial comes next, and we may hide away hoping and praying that it will all go away. If we don’t acknowledge it, it isn’t so. When we finally start to come to grip with the loss, we get angry. We may rail against life, family, friends and God. Why, we may ask, has this happened to me? I do not deserve this. We need someone to blame. Finally, the anger subsides and bargaining starts. I promise I will go to church each Sunday if God grants that my child be well, or my husband comes back to me. I promise I will do more in my life. Finally, there is acceptance and hope that the future will be better.
Count your blessings each day when things go well and accept that losses are very much a part of life.

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